Men And The 30 Second Rule.
Beauty is not synonymous with, neither does it translate into good character. Physical beauty does not guarantee good character, neither does lack of physical beauty preclude good character. In Proverbs 31:30, the Bible says that charm is deceitful and beauty is vain: it does not usually represent the true character of a woman. But the average man does not understand this distinction so he assesses every woman he meets for the first time by her physical beauty and her clothes.
Social scientists tell us that within the first 30 seconds of meeting a woman, a man makes up his mind if he wants her or not. It is in those crucial 30 seconds that many men make life time relationship decisions.
There’s a reason why the fashion and beauty industries are billion dollar businesses. There’s a reason why women invest a fortune in fashion and beauty products. The reason is quite simple: it works. Fashion and beauty products always deliver on their promises, which is to seduce you in the first 30 seconds.
A woman recognizes the fact that a man is easily swayed by what he sees so she works hard at making such an encounter very memorable. In the first 30 seconds of meeting a woman, without knowing who she is, what she does for a living or what lurks in the dark recesses of her mind, he is attracted to her and makes an important decision about her because of what he sees. Then he spends several weeks, months and perhaps, even years, to undo what his fickle emotions pushed him to do in the heat of the moment.
You must understand that what you see in the first 30 seconds of meeting a woman is totally irrelevant in making a relationship decision about her. A woman is not her face, she is not her body, neither is she the clothes she wears. A woman is a spirit with a soul and a body, but most men don’t seem to be able to see beyond her physical beauty and her clothes.
A woman understands how a man’s mind works so she does all she can to make sure that those first 30 seconds of seeing her will create desire in you to want her in your life. You walk up to her, she extends her hands, you smell her fragrance and she says, ‘hi.’ In those few seconds, if you like what you see, your pulse quickens, your palms begin to sweat, hormones surge in your blood stream, critical thought is temporarily suspended and you make a move on that woman. In those few seconds, a man plays a video in his mind about this woman. He may fantasize a romantic, marital or sexual relationship with her. All kinds of crazy videos may play in the mind of that man in those few seconds as he decides whether or not he should make a move on that woman. If the videos make ‘sense’ in his mind, he makes up his mind there and then to have that woman in his life.
It takes a woman many hours, sometimes, days and weeks to create that perfect look which will appeal to you and win you over in those first 30 seconds of seeing her. She invests quality thought into making the choice of what clothes to put on, what to look like, what fragrance to wear and what emotions to stir in you when you see her. Her ensemble is always carefully selected to make an immediate impression the moment you set your eyes on her. She selects her clothes to manipulate your mind in a particular direction the moment you see her. It is amazing what effort goes into creating that perfect look that captivates a man’s mind.
It is important to note that a woman’s clothes cover more than her body. It also covers her character. By cover I mean that a woman can use the combination of her physical beauty and her clothes to hide a poorly developed character and deceive you into having a relationship with her. Sadly, many women do this, so it is up to a man to see beyond her beauty and her clothes.
If you are patient, wait a few days or weeks, and carefully observe her, this woman will reveal her character and show you who she really is. But if you are impatient, if your hormones drive you crazy with desire to possess her beauty, you will make an error in judgment. You will be deceived by her carefully orchestrated appearance, make a hasty decision and make an unwise relationship commitment to a woman who you really don’t know.
You shouldn’t make a life time decision based on a few seconds of interaction with an attractive and beautiful stranger. You should discover who she is before contracting a relationship with her. Always remember, that no matter how stunningly attractive she is, no matter how stirred up your emotions are, a woman is never what she appears to be in those first 30 seconds.