The Lord brings us into certain strategic relationships to effect His will in our lives. We must understand that there are no coincidences in life. There are no accidental meetings that result in productive relationships. The bible says that the steps of a good man or woman are ordered of The Lord-Psalm 37:23. That means The Lord guides us and brings us into certain strategic relationships that are a blessing to our lives.
And his brethren went to feed their father’s flock in Shechem. And Israel said unto Joseph, Do not thy brethren feed the flock in Shechem? come, and I will send thee unto them. And he said to him, Here am I. And he said to him, Go, I pray thee, see whether it be well with thy brethren, and well with the flocks; and bring me word again. So he sent him out of the vale of Hebron, and he came to Shechem.
And a certain man found him, and, behold, he was wandering in the field:and the man asked him, saying, What seekest thou? And he said, I seek my brethren:tell me, I pray thee, where they feed their flocks. And the man said, They are departed hence; for I heard them say, Let us go to Dothan. And Joseph went after his brethren, and found them in Dothan.
Joseph was sent on an assignment by his father Jacob to find out the state of his brothers and the family business. Joseph got to a point on his journey where he didn’t know in what direction to go or what to do. He had no idea in what to do to fulfil the assignment given to him by his father. You would expect that with all the gifts Joseph had working in his life that he would be able to discern and have a clear direction to where his brothers were. But he didn’t. God didn’t tell him which way to go supernaturally or through his gifts. God did something interesting. He sent a divine connection into his life.
There are seasons in our lives that all our present relationships put together cannot move us to the next phase of God’s plan for our lives. As good as these relationships are, they may not contain or proffer the solutions to the new set of challenges we encounter on our journey. It is at such points or seasons that The Lord brings us into ‘chance meetings’ with a certain man or woman whose friendship, counsel and advice gives us clarity, strengthens our soul, encourages us to press on towards the fulfilment of our assignment in the kingdom. However many of us may be too focused on our network of friends and current relationships to see what God is doing in our lives. We become so dependent on our former relationships and leave no room for what God wants to do in our lives at different seasons.
God sent a man into Joseph’s life. He was a total stranger. He looked into the field and found Joseph wandering aimlessly. This man was moved by God and came over to where Joseph was looking around, completely lost on his journey. Joseph didn’t ask for this man’s help or friendship. He didn’t even know that such a person existed. He was totally focused on finding a solution to his challenges. It was God who initiated this move and birthed this relationship. God put a care, a concern, an interest for Joseph in this man’s heart and he left whatever he was doing and paid attention to Joseph. There are people God wants to send into our lives and we must prepare our hearts, we must be discerning enough to recognise them when they show up.
When this man found Joseph he asked him a question: “what are you searching for?” You should pause, take a moment and ask yourself this question. What are you searching for? What is your life about? Why do you do what you do? What is the reason for your journey?
This is a question that was at the very core of Joseph’s heart and God sent a man to ask him that question. If the relationships in your life are not asking you the right questions they have become redundant. If the relationships in your life are not involved in proffering solutions or helping you resolve the challenges you face in this season of your life, they have already served their purpose. You should be grateful for what God used them them to do in your life and trust The Lord to bring you into new relationships.
This man asked Joseph a question and Joseph was open and honest enough to give him the right answer. He felt secure sharing with this man exactly what was going on in his heart. A relationship in which you no longer feel safe to ask or answer questions honestly has ran its course. If you don’t feel safe sharing the core questions of your life with them like you used to do in the past, it is a sign that the season of that relationship has come and gone. If you don’t feel safe sharing intimate information with someone like you used to do in the past, it probably means that you’ve outgrown that relationship. If you try to avoid certain people and their questions feel like an evasion of your privacy or worse still a violation of your soul, you should move away from them.
Some people have been in the same relationships for decades. Some of these relationships may be good for you but some of them may be irrelevant at this season of your journey. Some of you have listened to the same pastor for years. There was a season in your life where you needed to listen to what he had to share with you. The truths he shared with you blessed your soul tremendously. However there comes a season on your journey when you need something more, something deeper to take you to the next phase of your assignment.
Some of you are keepers. When you find a relationship you keep it until the day you die. You fight really hard to hold on to this relationships whether it is good or bad. You believe that a relationship should remain for life no matter how little impact it has on your life. The problem with being a keeper is that you will end up wasting your energy on the wrong people while you ignore or shut the door on new, better and healthier relationships that God has designed to be a blessing to you in your present season in life. Keepers remain in abusive relationships and even fight people who want to rescue them from such abuse. If all you experience in a relationship is pain, you should wake up from your slumber and walk away from it.
This man brought clarity and direction into Joseph’s life. He set him on a path that led Joseph into what God had planned for him for the next thirteen years of his life. This man was used by God to position Joseph at the right place so that God’s purpose could find expression in his life. Every divine connection or relationship in our lives should serve a purpose. It should be a blessing to us. It should add some value to our lives. A relationship that no longer adds value to your life in some form or manner has come to an end. This man made a huge difference in Joseph’s life at that point on his journey.
This man offered Joseph clarity, wise counsel and direction. He didn’t offer him material things or money. At that point in Joseph’s life what he needed was direction, not money. Some of us are so materialistic that we have missed out on God’s gift to us in the past. We assess every relationship by its financial value and fail to receive God’s blessing freely given to us. If we are not discerning we will miss out on the divine connection God has positioned in our lives.
Joseph was discerning. He recognised and received this divine connection in his life. Some of us have trust issues and probably for good reasons. We find it hard to be open to the new strategic relationships that the Lord is bringing into our lives. Maybe we were hurt by the wrong choices we made in past relationships. We made some errors in judgement and trusted someone we shouldn’t have with a part of our lives and this person used this information against us, hurting us deeply. Some people were in a romantic relationship, they were abandoned, their hearts broken by someone they loved, someone they assumed loved them in return only to discover that the whole relationship was a ruse. They felt manipulated and used by that person and decided to shut their heart to every form of relationship. They trust nobody, not even their spiritual leader. They live in fear, erecting a defensive wall to keep everyone out. But the problem with erecting emotional walls is that although we keep the bad people out, we also succeed in keeping out the good people. This is not a wise way to live.
The fear of connecting with people will keep us imprisoned in the past. This fear will paralyse us from stepping out to meet and connect with the people God has prepared to be a blessing to us in this season. Until we are free from this fear we won’t be open to and receive the strategic relationships The Lord has prepared for us at this season of our lives. If Joseph had been scared of this man he wouldn’t have received the clarity and direction this man brought into his life at that point in his journey.
The bible says that Joseph followed this man’s counsel, went to Dothan where he found his brothers and he entered into a new season of God’s purpose for his life. Without this divine connection, without this divine relationship, Joseph would have wasted his life wandering aimlessly at Shechem. But God initiated, birthed this relationship to deliver him and be a blessing to him. Every divine relationship moves us forward in life. It releases us, sets us free from the chains and limitations of our past. It helps to bring healing into our lives. It brings us clarity, setting us in the right direction to pursue and accomplish God’s plan for our lives.
May The Lord bring you in contact with the people He has prepared to be a blessing to you in this season of your life.
May you find the strength and courage to exit and walk away from the wrong relationships in your life.
©Praise George 2016